Here is where my thoughts on this subject began. There was a Tweet chat with NAMI Massachusetts and I saw this statement:
|NAMIMass||A1: It largely depends on the resiliency of the child/adolescent. Some are more or less resilient to #traumatic #stress #mhsm|
Now at this point I didn’t know what resiliency was in psychology just my own thought on the word. So I said that I didn’t know how I felt that statement when it came to children. They replied:
I than asked if a child developing DID was a bad reaction to trauma. They said:
That exchange got me thinking and I’m curious to know what all of you think about resiliency.
In my mind I was kind of offended I think. I hadn’t looked up the word in relation to psychology yet but I think just having someone say that some kids are more resilient than others made me feel bad.
I was thinking, what gives you the right to call one child more resilient than another just because they react differently to trauma? I was thinking that it made it sound like those kids are better than others. Like reacting “badly” makes a child a weak person.
I went to Psych Central just to get the explanation of resiliency in plain terms. They said:
“Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity,trauma, tragedy, threats, or even significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or workplace and financial stressors. It means “bouncing back” from difficult experiences.
Research has shown that resilience is ordinary, not extraordinary. People commonly demonstrate resilience. One example is the response of many Americans to the September 11, 2001 terrorist attacks and individuals’ efforts to rebuild their lives.
Being resilient does not mean that a person doesn’t experience difficulty or distress. Emotional pain and sadness are common in people who have suffered major adversity or trauma in their lives. In fact, the road to resilience is likely to involve considerable emotional distress.
Resilience is not a trait that people either have or do not have. It involves behaviors, thoughts, and actions that can be learned and developed in anyone.“
I still wasn’t satisfied and then I read what they say contributes to resiliency:
“A combination of factors contributes to resilience. Many studies show that the primary factor in resilience is having caring and supportive relationships within and outside the family. Relationships that create love and trust, provide role models, and offer encouragement and reassurance help bolster a person’s resilience.
Several additional factors are associated with resilience, including:
- The capacity to make realistic plans and take steps to carry them out
- A positive view of yourself and confidence in your strengths and abilities
- Skills in communication and problem solving
- The capacity to manage strong feelings and impulses
All of these are factors that people can develop in themselves.”
I thought about abused kids, whether it was physical or sexual or verbal, whatever and I realized why resiliency would be an issue for them.
On the other hand, I wonder if a child developing DID shows a kind of resiliency? To come up with a way within yourself to deal with trauma so you can survive…isn’t that something?
Or, am I wrong and it’s the opposite of resiliency?
What do you guys think?