Category Archives: Intimacy

Shame spiral won’t leave


I apparently did something stupid yesterday. I won’t get into what led up to my actions because I’m sure it’s TMI but now I’m dealing with uncomfortable consequences like feeling dirty and generally grossed out and wrong. I initiated intimacy … Continue reading

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Uneven Relationships


It’s never good when someone says, “We need to talk”. It wasn’t good when my husband said it last night and it’s even worse because his complaints were completely legitimate. You see the title of this post is about uneven … Continue reading

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Update on spousal discord and thanks to everyone


I really appreciate all the support. You guys are constantly amazing. Seriously. The good news is that my husband and I talked, really talked and things went well. There were misunderstandings and a lack of understanding how words sound and … Continue reading

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He Said, She Said Part 2


I saw my therapist and talked to her about the whole thing. Before I went in today, I walked around a department store and was horrified and panicked to find myself on the brink of actual tears while in public. … Continue reading

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Anger and The Realization You’re On Your Own aka She said, He Said


I had a conversation with my husband yesterday about his comment the other day concerning the frequency of sex. I stayed mild but I told him that I felt it was insensitive considering what I’m dealing with right now. I … Continue reading

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