A nasty impulse and a HUGE question of why I felt the need to do it *About my doll*


Ok, I had something weird happen:

You might remember that I have a doll. She’s a baby doll and I bought her on Ebay because she was made during the years I was a child and therefore looks like the kind of doll I would’ve played with. She’s black, so she looks right in that way too. As a reminder, when I first bought her, she had no clothes which was what I wanted because I needed to see if she looked like the right kind of doll before I bought her. After I got her, i hated her with a vengeance. I fought with the impulse to pull her head off or beat her on a regular basis. Obviously I thought of this doll as more than a doll. I realized that I pictured her as a young me and I hated her. Eventually things changed though and I had a sudden urge to buy her something to cover her. I found a little dress on Ebay and when it came in the mail I put it on her and felt happy that she was covered. I felt like I respected her and it felt good. Fast-forward to today…at least I think it was today, I can’t quite remember because that Seroquel it keeping me drowsy. Anyway, I keep a stack of stuff for my younger parts in my bathroom because it’s private and I keep that room clean and only I use that bathroom. My husband isn’t allowed in there and it’s the master bathroom so no guests ever see it. So, I was in the bathroom and my eyes zeroed in on the doll as I was walking out. I stopped and I was hit with a sudden urge to reach down and touch the doll between the legs. What the hell!!?? Why would I want to do that???? I’m not a pedophile for God’s sake! I didn’t even realize that I was moving to do it until I was starting to kneel down. I brought myself up quickly and was shaken. But then the impulse hit again and I just did it. When it happened I didn’t feel any pleasure in the act, all I felt was revulsion, confusion and an odd distance at the same time. It took maybe 5 seconds? But when it was over I washed my hands because I felt dirty but still distant. I didn’t understand what had happened or why, and now I’m scared of that doll. Why did I do that? I don’t understand.

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About CimmarianInk

Abuse Survivor Diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder PTSD and Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) also known as Multiple Personalities
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5 Responses to A nasty impulse and a HUGE question of why I felt the need to do it *About my doll*

  1. Freasha1964 says:

    I am sure others will have better insights into your “lapse” here. From my perspective, A. you are not a pedophile, and the doll is not a child. B. You are not a pedophile, period. C. My guess is that you could have just discovered a new way to self harm. I am not sure that congratulations are in order here. But it is OK. Just let it be OK, let it go.
    And another possibility: you know how they have dolls in child psychologist’s offices so the children can show what happened to them on the doll? Maybe a child part popped out and wanted to show you what happened.
    OK, I am out of ideas now. But do let it be OK. You are really OK.

    • CimmerianInk says:

      I think when I first wrote this post I was still reeling from the shock of what I did, but when I look back at it, I know that I’m not a pedophile. Something weird did happen with the doll, I just don’t get it yet. There was such an odd distance and horror to the whole thing that it still bothers me, and I can’t look at the doll right now. It’s sticking in my head though and I can’t shake it but it’s more like a something I’m feeling in the background, more than something that’s taking over my whole thought process.

      I did consider the theory about someone trying to use the doll to show me something and I need to think on that one. I thought that was a possibility before I wrote the post but I didn’t have a good grasp on what had happened yet.

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  3. Lilly says:

    I was thinking it was like you using your power over something you perceive as helpless or less capable. I think that fits with your history from what I have read of your posts and experiences. I can see your shock and disgust.

    • CimmerianInk says:

      When discussing this with my therapist, I had a strong sense that another part of me, whether a fully formed alter or simply representative of something, influenced that action. The doll has always represented me from day one whether I realized it at the time or not. My therapist pointed out something that was also commented on, which is that when you give a child who has been sexually abused a doll, they tend to act out or show what happened with that doll. It’s a theory anyway and it doesn’t feel unreasonable.

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