So there’s a treatment facility in the U.S. that’s being sued for planting false memories in a woman, with several other women coming forward to join her.
I almost didn’t post about this because I don’t want to cause confusion for people who are already dealing with issues around memory. That includes myself, except that I know I don’t have any false memories, just the one I’ve always had. So, when you read my summary of this, just know that I believe everyone’s accounts of what happened to them, 100%. I wanted to write about it because the article is so one-sided that it disturbed me and made me angry. They even brought up multiple personalities.
The woman is claiming that the man who runs the place hypnotized her into thinking that she was part of a satanic cult and had been abused, and seen crimes taking place and participated in them. According to the story, she eventually got together with other women who had been treated there and they had the same experience of the satanic cult situation. Apparently that made them question what had really happened and now they’re suing.
The article then go on to quote the founder of the FMS group that everyone knows so well and they said unequivocally that there is no scientific proof that the brain stores repressed memory. They said that they have proven that you can plant anything and they go on to show “examples” about people who claimed to have been sexually abused and how they were all lying.
I’m sitting here and my stomach is just tightly clenched. Why did the story only show one side!!?? Why did they only quote that woman whose sole purpose in life was to discredit her daughter’s claims and create that group!!?? Why didn’t the news article, which by the way is on ABC NEWS for god’s sake, not show the other side of the story, which proves that most people don’t make this stuff up and most people have not been influenced my therapists to believe that they were abused!!?? WHY!!??
I’m thinking about all the victims sitting there reading that story who will start questioning themselves. Because it’s a hell of a lot easier to disbelieve yourself than to have to accept that something really bad happened to you, isn’t it? I think most victims would rather believe that their memories are faulty, than accept that kind of pain.
Then I thought of all the perpetrators sitting there gloating while reading this story and seeing how they could have a defense and keep on abusing kids. I thought of all the parents and relatives who’ve gotten away with abusing their kids and how smug they must feel reading a story like that.
Do I believe that in the perfect circumstances, certain people may be able to be influenced by an unethical person? Yes. Do I believe that this is where most sexual abuse claims come from? Hell no. In fact I’m sure that it’s a very, very small percentage. But that’s not what the media wants to hear and today the FMS people got heard loud and clear and it makes me sick and so very angry.
I would even venture to say that the very, very small number of people who may have “false memories” may have memories that are based on fact but perhaps the details got jumbled. For example, a person may believe that a neighbor molested them when in reality it was a relative. I’m willing to think that could happen even though again, not very often.
When it comes down to it: Most people who say they were sexually abused, were.
There are always going to be frauds both in the professional world and on the other side with people claiming to be victims. It happens. Could this story be true concerning these women? Yes, it could. Is it possible that the director of this facility did hypnotize them and plant false memories? I’ll say sure. Do some people claim to be victims just to get attention or make money from suing people? Yes, and that happens in all areas of life. But if you ask me if the majority of victims are doing this, my answer is an unequivical NO.
These people who push FMS would make it seem like the victims get pleasure from having to talk about what happened to them, being exposed, being ridiculed, not being believed. Sure, it’s so glamorous isn’t it? We just love attention don’t we? That’s bullshit. I know the people in this community and there is nothing pleasant or fun about any of this.
I’m so angry right now!