Ok, I give up. This subject has been pissing me off and I’m going to rant even though I’m really tired and won’t make much sense.
First a disclaimer: You may ask why I keep reading books that piss me off? It’s because I get bored and I need to read and I don’t want to read “The Help” because I already know what it’s like to be black in the South for god’s sake and I don’t want to read interesting autobiographies because I don’t like autobiographies and I can only read so many cookbooks and knitting books and just…because!
There, now that’s out of the way…
I am pissed at Nora Roberts who writes a futuristic police/romantic suspense series “In Death” under the name J.D.Robb. If you’ve never read them I’m going to do spoilers so don’t read on if it will ruin things for you.
And this rant has nothing to do with the repetitive, monotonous nature of the writing, in which the same thing happens over and over in every book, even when it makes no logical sense. And yes, I still read them. I know! I’m bored okay?
In the “In Death” series Nora/J.D. Robb writes about a female New York detective in our future. This detective’s name is Lt. Eve Dallas. Eve Dallas is not really her name because as a child she was horribly sexually, and physically abused by her father, to the point where she killed him when she was 8 years old and promptly forgot her name and past. She was then found on the streets and put into the foster system. They named her Eve Dallas as she was found in Dallas.
Throughout the series Eve refuses to deal with her past, which I understand, but I don’t understand her actions. Oh wait! This is also supposed to be a romance isn’t it? Romantic suspense…right.
Ok so she marries a man who is Irish, sexy, and rich. Of course. And they have sex...lots and lots of sex. I actually skip those parts now, in part because of the ridiculous monotony and repetition and partly because it’s just dumb!
What I just love is the time her husband said he was worried that her past would cause her pain in their intimate life and she says that it would never happen because all she see is him blah, blah, blah. Really?
Ms. Robb/Roberts takes lots of time to detail the various rapes that happened to Eve as a small child. And you’re telling me that would have NO bearing on her sex life and intimacy now? Really?
I also love how Eve can have a flashback and immediately “fix” it by having hot sex with her hot husband. Because that makes it all better doesn’t it? And her husband will see that she’s remembering something and then he scoops her up and they have…wait for it…sex!
Oh wait I see…it wouldn’t be very romantic if Eve had flashbacks during sex and had to stop would it? It wouldn’t be romantic if her husband wanted sex and she couldn’t do it at that moment because she had just remembered her father raping her would it?
I think it’s awesome that women with abusive pasts (who may not have been in any kind of therapy to know better) can read these books and wonder if something’s wrong with them because they can’t just see the person they love when intimate.
I’m not saying that a person couldn’t get to a place of more peace where intimacy becomes easier. I believe that is possible, with help. But Eve is not in counseling or therapy. She pushes disturbing thoughts away and refuses to get regular counseling, even though one of her close friends is a psychologist who has offered to help her work through her memories. And almost every case, in every book, is a sexual homicide. It would be hard enough for a police officer with NO past sexual abuse to handle that, let alone someone with Eve’s past.
I don’t blame Eve. Not at all. Most of us run from those dark thoughts that cause pain. BUT if you’re going to write about sexual abuse, it should make more sense. Eve should have trouble. But that’s not romantic is it?
The author has NO trouble fictionalizing sexual abuse for entertainment purposes but her heroine does not react like a normal person would. That pisses me off because then sexual abuse becomes exactly that: entertainment. But sexual abuse is not entertaining. Of course Law and Order: SVU would prove me wrong wouldn’t it?
Like I said, this has been ruminating in my head for a while and I just needed to rant. I really need to find some new fiction now that I’ve grown out of Twilight (you can laugh). 😛