Be Safe You Matter

I don’t do holidays, but I know some of you do which means that, some of you will be seeing family soon. This may mean different scenarios for different people.

If you have a mental illness you may be seeing family who don’t understand that your illness is real and chemically based. Or that it’s a perfectly natural response to something you went through. They may think you’re “seeking attention” or “you need to get out more” or perhaps they’re “tired if hearing about this” at every family gathering.

If you were abused you may be seeing your abuser, toxic family or friends, people who enabled your abuse or people who flat out didn’t believe you.

Or maybe you’re alone at a time when society says you should be surrounded by family and friends who love you.

You know what I say? Screw ’em!

You need to do what you need to do to be safe! And if that means not pretending anymore that you belong to a freakin’ Norman Rockwell, Hallmark card family full of squishy hugs and cookie kisses then so be it and they can kiss your ass!

Jeez apparently I’m really angry and I didn’t know it until I started writing this. But this blog post isn’t about me for once, it’s about you. Take care of yourselves please!! Hallmark doesn’t know squat about real life and they can’t tell you how to stay safe.

If your family failed you, you don’t owe them anything and they will never appreciate your sacrifice or understand or care what it takes for you to even show up. But you know who does understand and care? The mental health community. They get it in a way no one else can or will because they live it everyday! So you are not alone. You are never alone. Tomorrow is just another day and a lot of people secretly hate it because they don’t even like their family that much and they’re stressed about spending money they don’t have on ungrateful people.

Here’s my suggestion: If your local theater is open go watch the new Star Wars movie, it was awesome. Have a soda, eat hot, buttery popcorn and enjoy yourself (if it’s not open, go see its the next day). Then tomorrow will be over and everyone will be returning all the useless crap they got from people they don’t like.

Above all else, take care of yourselves. You matter.

– CimmerianInk


About CimmarianInk

Abuse Survivor Diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder PTSD and Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) also known as Multiple Personalities
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9 Responses to Be Safe You Matter

  1. Blackdaria says:

    You take care of yourself as well😊

  2. Freasha1964 says:

    Thank you, CI, for a thoughtful, lovely, and FEISTY post! I will be doing the non-holiday thing tomorrow, too. I have managed to train most of my friends not to give me presents, mostly by not giving them presents first. (And the one that I did get is from a dear friend who probably got me something I will like because she knows who I am.) Don’t get me started on how the meaning of this day – if there is any meaning above another day- has been obscured by commercialism.

    • CimmarianInk says:

      Hi Freasha, it was feisty wasn’t it hahaha! I don’t know what came over me but the holiday season gets on my nerves on many levels.

      I’m glad you’ve set boundaries and made decisions that are best for you. I hope you enjoy your day your own way. Hugs to you.

  3. didandme12 says:

    we are choosing to stay away from the family (abusers). best decision we ever made. thanks for sharing and being honest! we are going out tonight and getting chinese food!

  4. Janis says:

    You described every holiday for me. I have did and bi polar 2. Everything else they tell me that I have enough to worry about. I also have a son with autism and a borderline daughter. Both teenagers. I’m holding on by a string.

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