I don’t do holidays, but I know some of you do which means that, some of you will be seeing family soon. This may mean different scenarios for different people.
If you have a mental illness you may be seeing family who don’t understand that your illness is real and chemically based. Or that it’s a perfectly natural response to something you went through. They may think you’re “seeking attention” or “you need to get out more” or perhaps they’re “tired if hearing about this” at every family gathering.
If you were abused you may be seeing your abuser, toxic family or friends, people who enabled your abuse or people who flat out didn’t believe you.
Or maybe you’re alone at a time when society says you should be surrounded by family and friends who love you.
You know what I say? Screw ’em!
You need to do what you need to do to be safe! And if that means not pretending anymore that you belong to a freakin’ Norman Rockwell, Hallmark card family full of squishy hugs and cookie kisses then so be it and they can kiss your ass!
Jeez apparently I’m really angry and I didn’t know it until I started writing this. But this blog post isn’t about me for once, it’s about you. Take care of yourselves please!! Hallmark doesn’t know squat about real life and they can’t tell you how to stay safe.
If your family failed you, you don’t owe them anything and they will never appreciate your sacrifice or understand or care what it takes for you to even show up. But you know who does understand and care? The mental health community. They get it in a way no one else can or will because they live it everyday! So you are not alone. You are never alone. Tomorrow is just another day and a lot of people secretly hate it because they don’t even like their family that much and they’re stressed about spending money they don’t have on ungrateful people.
Here’s my suggestion: If your local theater is open go watch the new Star Wars movie, it was awesome. Have a soda, eat hot, buttery popcorn and enjoy yourself (if it’s not open, go see its the next day). Then tomorrow will be over and everyone will be returning all the useless crap they got from people they don’t like.
Above all else, take care of yourselves. You matter.